Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Year's Resolutions Part II

Thanks to all of you who posted your New Year's resolutions in the previous thread - and if you haven't yet there is still time!

I decided to post mine here on the blog so that I might actually follow through with them. And so I can remember what I am resolving to do (usually by March I've totally forgotten). So here it goes, in no particular order:

1. Join a book club. I know I've always said I wanted to do this, but I've never done it. I read like a mad woman, finishing books in a day or two. But I don't ever take my time to THINK about what I'm reading. I would love to sit down with a small group of people, pick a book to study for each month, and then discuss it (possibly over some yummy munchies).

2. Make ME time. Honestly, I don't know if I combed my hair today - or yesterday even. I've got scraps of nail polish on my toes, leftover from my pedicure that my mom took me to in September. And let's not even talk about my eyebrows. I've forgotten how good it feels to do these little things. I can't tell you how many bottles of lotion, body wash and fru-fru things that are just sitting, unused, in my bathroom. So this year, I'm vowing to try and find time for me (when the girls are asleep, of course).

3. Join my local Moms of Multiples group. I can not tell you how invaluable the MoMs on my message board have been (love you girls). It is finally time for me to meet some local MoMs and form new friendships - with other women you GET what having two babies is like. I also want to get together with all of my girl friends who just had their babies, and do playdates with our children.

4. Start jogging. This one is pretty self explanitory. Once the girls get better at holding their necks up, I plan on jogging every day after work with them in their super sweet stroller.

5. Be a good mommy. This is one of my biggest fears in life. Am I reading to the girls often enough, are they being held long enough, can I make sure they are both loved equally, can I teach them the difference between right and wrong, and how to be a good, generous person. I need for them to know that I love them with every fiber, every piece of my heart.

6. Cook more. I love to cook, and I might even say I'm a pretty decent cook. But after months of bedrest, recovering from birth and having newborn twins - I've slacked off a lot in this area. Seriously, I ate crescent rolls and cheese for lunch today. I've seen a lot of bloggers do Menu Plan Monday, and I might start this as well.

Well, those are my New Year's resolutions. Hopefully I will stick to them!


  1. I'm sorry your marriage isnt on your to do list. I hope you and the girls will be happy and healthy in 2009.

  2. You know, I was going to delete this comment, but instead I'll respond. My marriage was on my 2007 to do list. Over the course of the year, I was lied to, put down, told I was fat, a whore, that I better not "kill" his babies when my water broke, cheated on, had my family members and children threatened, and had to call the cops on him twice. Through this whole time I begged him to change and get help, and he refused. So no, I don't feel the least bit bad that I'm getting out. I want the BEST chance for a healthy environment for my children, and with him there is no chance.

  3. I just came back to try and edit my comment. I didnt mean it the way it came out. I'm really sorry. I wasnt trying to say that it was your fault or that it wasnt a priority of yours. I just meant that I'm sorry it isnt going to work out. If he's not willing to get help and make the changes, then I commend you for refusing to have that in the girls lives. Two of my best friends are single moms, so I know a bit about the hard road ahead of you. Another of my friends is married to an absolute ass who I promise could make just about any man look like prince charming...and her two daughters are seeing that as an example of how a man should be allowed to treat you. I dont envy you being a single mom, but I truly commend you for not just putting up with it just for the sake of being married/having a two parent household.

  4. I hear you on the be a good mommy thing, but I haven't had a stitch of time to read to the baby, and i'm home with her all day. must improve on that! but she does get a song every now and then and lots of inane chatter, so hopefully her vocabulary will still be great!

  5. I am a blog stalker sorry I cant help it, your girls are to cute. I think you are an amazingly strong mom. Here is to a happy and healthy 2009!

  6. Jen - I don't think you have to worry too much about #5, since I believe from everything I read and heard from Grandma, that you are already a GREAT Mom. I was sorry to hear about your marriage, but after hearing about the way he treated you, I give you a lot of credit for leaving. It's not going to be easy that's for sure, but you are a very strong woman and I am sure you will make it through this difficult time. One thing I can tell you from experience, give yourself some "me" time whenever possible, if I could do it all over again that would be the only thing I would change. Hugs & Kisses to you and the girls and the best of everything for 2009. Aunt Robin


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